"What I Wish I'd Been Told"
Useful Experiences Shared by Some Mothers
Compiled by Samuelina Wan
“With Wei Ru, I wish someone told me that formula is not a
close cousin of breastmilk (maybe a very distant relative), and that there’s
no need to supplement with formula. I wish I knew a breastfeeding-friendly
doctor who did not ask me to stop breastfeeding (and stay away from the
baby) while on the anti-diarrhoea medication.
I also wish someone told me how to re-start breastfeeding after
stopping for a while. I wish someone told me about misc.kids.breastfeeding
(an internet newsgroup).”
~ GH Chong, Mom to Wei Ru (2.8 yr) & currently nursing Jun Wei (5 mth)
“I wish I'd been told that it's fine for babies to nurse practically
non-stop. I was so worried
when Shiv wouldn't sleep for 4 hrs in between ( don't ask me why
4 was the magic number). Only one person told me it was fine to feed him
as much as he wanted - lucky I listened to her.”
~ Shanthi, currently nursing Shiv (3.5yrs)
“I wish I’d been told of the benefits of breastfeeding immediately,
then maybe Sheralyn wouldn’t have been sick for a week. I wish I’d
known that expressed breastmilk (ebm) can
be stored for more than 2 days, so when I was asked to stop breastfeeding
to monitor Sheralyn’s jaundice, I wouldn’t have emptied away “precious
I also wish I knew someone told me that the body adjusts quickly.
Why is it that the hospital told us to wean 2 weeks before we start work
if we do not wish to continue to breastfeed? Sheralyn was miserable for
5 afternoons because of it.
I wish I knew about internet support groups and also of BMSG(S).
~ Leow Yee Ling, currently nursing Sheralyn (8mths)
“With Aina, I wish that I’d been more persistent in pumping after
6 months. I also wish
someone told me that I could still continue nurse her even though
I was pregnant. She was
only 10 months old then. She would then benefit from breastmilk
when my milk comes back for Anis through tandem nursing.”
~Sabrina Wan, Mom to Aina (2.75yrs) & currently nursing Anis (14mths)
"With Sarah, I wish someone told me about "high-need" babies, and highlighted
that "breastfeeding is more than nutrition". And because of these,
I may need to expect my baby wanting to breastfeed constantly!
With Daniel, I wish someone told me that I could to some extent prevent
exaggerated jaundice by nursing very very frequently from Day 1 in the
hospital. I was following the "breastfeeding by demand" principle.
Daniel was a sleepy baby, so didn't "demand" much! He could go for
4 to 6 hours between feeds during his 1st few days in hospital! I
SHOULD HAVE taken the effort to wake him every 2 hourly to nurse him.
Maybe he wouldn't have had jaundice for 1 month then."
~ Samuelina Wan, Mom to Sarah (3.75yrs)
& currently nursing Daniel (14.5mths)
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